Wednesday, December 10, 2014

My Expectations from a PhD - Fall 2014

So my first semester is one report away, it's safe now to contemplate for a while. Just breathe ...

It's not as hard as I thought, thanks of course to the great advice of my great advisor and mentor. I took it slow and had the time to explore, get to know people, get to know the city, and get to know myself in this new environment. There is more structure to things now.

I entered the PhD with the goal of shaping the philosophy that will guide my future endeavors. "To observe processes and to construct means is science; to criticize and coordinate ends is philosophy, that's what I had in my statement of purpose. I still believe that to be my goal. However, through this semester I started to look closer to fill some of the missing bits and pieces of that bigger picture.

Talking with people, attending thesis proposals, and just watching people pass by, I am starting to get caught up in the loop of the narrow view that should get me to that bigger picture. And I can't be happier, I am finally doing what I have always wanted to do and having the freedom to guide my work.

I know now that I need to read more, be more confident, be a little calmer, and definitely listen more than I speak. Be challenging but not offensive, professional but not indifferent, and always have time for my family, my friends, and myself. I

I know now that I need to build my own systems, and learn how to analyze other's .. fast. And not get lost in the gigantic volumes of data the world is throwing our way.

I am happy that I am developing as research and more importantly as a human being, thanks to every wonderful spirit that entered my life in the past 4 months.

Thursday, October 9, 2014

A thought

It's there .. always .. haunting me ...

That picture ... the good one ... not the perfect one ... and not the real one either .. the one with you smiling and giving me that look ... that look that made me feel alive for the first time in my entire existence ... 

It should have been forever, or at least for a while, but not like that ... how did I miss it .. was it me that got us that far? ... the guilt .. I hate you for that ... no no no !!!! ... NOO !! .. I CAN'T HATE YOU!! .. I just don't love you .. and it hurts ... like tearing my heart out of my chest and telling it that it doesn't belong there anymore ... and sadly, deep inside, my heart knows ... it knows that it should be cast away for now ... probably for good ... for the greater good ... we worked so hard for us, we worked so hard for this ...

My heart leaves ... it abandons us ... it abandons me